Be nice but not manipulable

 We can be nice, but that does not mean that we will say yes to everything. Boundaries are necessary in our own lives, as well as in the way we relate to others. I know it’s hard to forgive someone who have hurt you or those you love as care for. It’s not an easy step, but it’s necessary and with God’s help we all ca forgive. We have to forgive those who offend us, because if we do not forgive our hearts harden and get bitter, and we are the most affected. Furthermore, not forgiving others causes God not to forgive us our offenses because he is just. He has forgiven us things that we could not calculate, and some we will never be able to talk about because they cause us shame and humiliation. Still, by asking for forgiveness and repenting before God we are forgiven, and our debt has been erased and he never again reminds us of it to accuse us. But there is a problem that many of us face in the process of forgiving other people. Perhaps we have decided to forgive them and we no longer spoke to them about the subject, nor did we act vengefully, but there are people who get confused and think that when we forgive them, we leave the door open for them to hurt us again. But that is not true, we forgive them but we will not allow the same thing to happen. Because along with forgiveness we must act with discernment and the necessary balance to know how far we will approach these individuals. Without having seen signs that this person really changed, it is not wise that for us get so close. In order to avoid an attack equal to or worse than the previous one. There are people we have already forgiven for all their evils because we have changed, by being in Christ, being born again in him, and eating his word daily, we have been renewed. But these people continue doing the same or worse things. Because they are being influenced and guided by evil. Unfortunately, some people want to use us, manipulate us and take away our peace. The Bible advises us in Proverbs 1:10 (a), "my son, if sinners want to deceive you, don't consent". In other words,don't allow it, put limits on them, do not let them use you, don’t let anyone run over you, or deprive you of your peace. Don’t let people take the economical and spiritual resources that you are obtaining with much effort. Be nice, but not manipulable. May your goodness not make you lose your sense of reality. If you have two shirts, give one away, but if you only have one, don't get naked. You can chat with people but don't tell everyone your secrets or your private life. Give but don’t allow people to take advantage of you. Don’t take your family’s provision to sustain people who willingly don’t  want to work and are just living from freebies.  Do not allow anyone to move you from the emotional stability that has cost you so much, nor to distract you from your walk with God day by day.
“You were bought with a price [a precious price paid by Christ]; do not become slaves to men [but to Christ].”
‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭7:23‬ ‭AMP‬‬

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