We have all known couples who looked very much in love and happy, and suddenly it was all over. Some of us have experienced the disappointment that the relationship we dreamed would be forever fell apart in front of our eyes, and there was nothing we could do about it. Below I share few reasons why some love stories failed.
1- The relationship strength was only sex.
Although sex is important, it is not the only element of a relationship. In a healthy relationship, there is love, commitment, respect, mutual attraction, trust, admiration, companionship, and passion. There must be a balance for the relationship to work, otherwise, on the least expected day everything will fall apart.
2- One of the two continued to live as when they were single.
There are people who do not make the change of status in their lifestyle and continue to have affairs, hanging out with friends, acting as if they live alone, and thinking of themselves only.
3- They did not honor their partner.
Mutual respect is a very important factor in a healthy relationship. Therefore, a person who does not protect his/her partner, does not keep their secrets, does not defend them when someone speak ill of the other behind their back, and joins others in murmuring against the partner is not honoring such a partner and that sooner or later will bring them consequences.
4- They had character issues ,psychological problems, emotional trauma, sexual dysfunctions, poor financial management, vices or addictions that they never dealt with and this took its toll on them.
There are problems that if we do not face up to it in time or seek the right help, they can become a snowball that wipes out everything in its path.
5- They got together for the wrong reasons.
There are people who join others for physical appearance, economic or leadership position, for fame, to compete with another person, to get revenge on a former partner, for fear of loneliness, for the emotion of the moment, and the list goes on. When a couple comes together for the wrong reasons, they will end up splitting up to do the right thing.
6- The order of the factors altered the product.
In terms of love and relationships there is an order that, if not carried out, is counterproductive.
1- Love God with all our heart, all our mind, all our soul, and all our strength. ⬆️⬇️
2- Loving ourselves.⬇️➡️
3- Loving our partner as ourselves. Unfortunately most of the romantic songs inspire us to love other people with all of our beings.
When we love another human being with all our heart, mind, soul and strength, we are giving them the place that only belongs to God, and this sooner than later will wreak havoc on us, because the person to whom we give that place becomes an idol, they fill themselves with arrogance and seeing themselves so high they will trample us in every sense of the word. We have to go back to the beginning and put our priorities in order.
““Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?” And Jesus replied to him, “ ‘YOU SHALL LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AND WITH ALL YOUR SOUL, AND WITH ALL YOUR MIND.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. The second is like it, ‘YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF [that is, unselfishly seek the best or higher good for others].’”
Matthew 22:36-39 AMP
7- Because one of the two saw another as someone insignificant and the other one got tired of so much abuse and left.
Sadly, this type of problem secretly abounds more than what is published on social networks. For this reason we must evaluate well with whom we are going to mate before making that important decision in our lives.